Thursday, August 21, 2008
What Is It You Are Not Telling Me?!
My husbands brother and his wife are having some sort of marital trouble. I know the finances are a BIG part of it since she was raised in a wealthy family and because she got married and had a child young the refuse to pay for anything but she has not cut back on her spending. Another big part of it was that he was in the Army and out of the country a large part of the first few years they were married and now that he is out dynamics are different. Now she seems to be avoiding me and whenever we have a date to get together so the cousins can play she bails on me and says she is sick. The last few family get togethers she has skipped also and she has been making frequent trips to the OB/GYN. She swears she is not pregnant and says she has a cyst but that is not the problem and they are doing "tests". They have been running tests for over a month now and she still won't tell me whats going on. Now my husbands brother has talked to him about everything but my husband is so damn honorable the refuses to tell me anything since he promised his brother he wouldn't. All he will say is they are going through hard times and not to jump to any conclusions or ask any questions. I asked him if she had an STD and he rolled over and said he was NOT talking about it and went to sleep. So if she does have and STD is she fooling around or is he fooling around and brought it home to her? I know it is none of my business but I really want to know!!
Monday, August 4, 2008
"Man Work"
My Lovely Husband,
I love the fact that I can stay home with the kids. I really do appreciate that you go to work and make the money so that can happen. I'm so glad you do the bills, mow the grass, and change the oil in my mini van. I know you work hard. I really do. BUT.... When at the end of the day you come home and sit on your ASS and do not a damn thing I do NOT appreciate it! I made dinner, did your laundry, cleaned the house, and took care of your four kids all day long! Do I not get to sit down for a minute and "decompress"?! It is NOT as easy as you seem to think it is! When you walk in the door is not the first time all day that the baby has been SCREAMING his baby head off! He does it all damn day! I'm sorry if he gives you a head ache. I'm sorry if the older kids fighting makes you crazy. I know we have a big house and 2 cars and a bunch of the stuff to pay for but sometimes your "MAN WORK" as you call it is not enough!! I don't mean to say you don't do anything around here. It came out wrong when I told you that. I know your job is stressful and you are tired but I am too! You have slept through the night every night but 2 since our 6 week old was born and when I did wake you up you acted like I committed some grave sin asking you to hold the baby while I cleaned up regurgitated chocolate cake and hot dogs off the carpet.
I know you have been dipping since you were 16 and I have been asking you forever to stop but HELLO the day our child is born is not really a geat time! Postpartum hormones are a bitch and you being even bitchier than I am because you are "nicin" all the time pisses me the hell off!! I know dipping is three times more adictive than smoking and 5 times harder to quit. You have told me. MANY times. I love that you are quitting and I know that it is so stresful at work that it is hard to quit while you are there but THIS is stressful too! Being all snappy and pissy and acting like a prick does not make this better for ANYONE!
I know you have a great job and without it we would be TOTALLY FUCKED. I know it was a one in a million chance that you would get a job that pays $80,000 without a college degree. I know you have to work your ass off to be the best that anyone has ever seen but could you please bring some of that home? NOT the working part ...you bring plenty of that home. The part where you try HARD to make everyone like you and do what you can to make things the best they can be. Bring some of that home! And speaking of the money you make a lot! Why do you act like we are so poor? I know you grew up poor but WE are not poor now! I know we have a bit of debt but it will get paid off soon and I am doing what I can. So please stop making it seem like we are going to be living in a box instead of a 2700 square ft house! We are fine! Stop worring all the time!!
I really do love you but if you could just be a little nicer, help out a little with my "Woman Work"and calm the fuck down I would be forever greatful.
Love, Your wife
I love the fact that I can stay home with the kids. I really do appreciate that you go to work and make the money so that can happen. I'm so glad you do the bills, mow the grass, and change the oil in my mini van. I know you work hard. I really do. BUT.... When at the end of the day you come home and sit on your ASS and do not a damn thing I do NOT appreciate it! I made dinner, did your laundry, cleaned the house, and took care of your four kids all day long! Do I not get to sit down for a minute and "decompress"?! It is NOT as easy as you seem to think it is! When you walk in the door is not the first time all day that the baby has been SCREAMING his baby head off! He does it all damn day! I'm sorry if he gives you a head ache. I'm sorry if the older kids fighting makes you crazy. I know we have a big house and 2 cars and a bunch of the stuff to pay for but sometimes your "MAN WORK" as you call it is not enough!! I don't mean to say you don't do anything around here. It came out wrong when I told you that. I know your job is stressful and you are tired but I am too! You have slept through the night every night but 2 since our 6 week old was born and when I did wake you up you acted like I committed some grave sin asking you to hold the baby while I cleaned up regurgitated chocolate cake and hot dogs off the carpet.
I know you have been dipping since you were 16 and I have been asking you forever to stop but HELLO the day our child is born is not really a geat time! Postpartum hormones are a bitch and you being even bitchier than I am because you are "nicin" all the time pisses me the hell off!! I know dipping is three times more adictive than smoking and 5 times harder to quit. You have told me. MANY times. I love that you are quitting and I know that it is so stresful at work that it is hard to quit while you are there but THIS is stressful too! Being all snappy and pissy and acting like a prick does not make this better for ANYONE!
I know you have a great job and without it we would be TOTALLY FUCKED. I know it was a one in a million chance that you would get a job that pays $80,000 without a college degree. I know you have to work your ass off to be the best that anyone has ever seen but could you please bring some of that home? NOT the working part ...you bring plenty of that home. The part where you try HARD to make everyone like you and do what you can to make things the best they can be. Bring some of that home! And speaking of the money you make a lot! Why do you act like we are so poor? I know you grew up poor but WE are not poor now! I know we have a bit of debt but it will get paid off soon and I am doing what I can. So please stop making it seem like we are going to be living in a box instead of a 2700 square ft house! We are fine! Stop worring all the time!!
I really do love you but if you could just be a little nicer, help out a little with my "Woman Work"and calm the fuck down I would be forever greatful.
Love, Your wife
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