What Is It You Are Not Telling Me?!

My husbands brother and his wife are having some sort of marital trouble. I know the finances are a BIG part of it since she was raised in a wealthy family and because she got married and had a child young the refuse to pay for anything but she has not cut back on her spending. Another big part of it was that he was in the Army and out of the country a large part of the first few years they were married and now that he is out dynamics are different. Now she seems to be avoiding me and whenever we have a date to get together so the cousins can play she bails on me and says she is sick. The last few family get togethers she has skipped also and she has been making frequent trips to the OB/GYN. She swears she is not pregnant and says she has a cyst but that is not the problem and they are doing "tests". They have been running tests for over a month now and she still won't tell me whats going on. Now my husbands brother has talked to him about everything but my husband is so damn honorable the refuses to tell me anything since he promised his brother he wouldn't. All he will say is they are going through hard times and not to jump to any conclusions or ask any questions. I asked him if she had an STD and he rolled over and said he was NOT talking about it and went to sleep. So if she does have and STD is she fooling around or is he fooling around and brought it home to her? I know it is none of my business but I really want to know!!

"Man Work"

My Lovely Husband,

I love the fact that I can stay home with the kids. I really do appreciate that you go to work and make the money so that can happen. I'm so glad you do the bills, mow the grass, and change the oil in my mini van. I know you work hard. I really do. BUT.... When at the end of the day you come home and sit on your ASS and do not a damn thing I do NOT appreciate it! I made dinner, did your laundry, cleaned the house, and took care of your four kids all day long! Do I not get to sit down for a minute and "decompress"?! It is NOT as easy as you seem to think it is! When you walk in the door is not the first time all day that the baby has been SCREAMING his baby head off! He does it all damn day! I'm sorry if he gives you a head ache. I'm sorry if the older kids fighting makes you crazy. I know we have a big house and 2 cars and a bunch of the stuff to pay for but sometimes your "MAN WORK" as you call it is not enough!! I don't mean to say you don't do anything around here. It came out wrong when I told you that. I know your job is stressful and you are tired but I am too! You have slept through the night every night but 2 since our 6 week old was born and when I did wake you up you acted like I committed some grave sin asking you to hold the baby while I cleaned up regurgitated chocolate cake and hot dogs off the carpet.

I know you have been dipping since you were 16 and I have been asking you forever to stop but HELLO the day our child is born is not really a geat time! Postpartum hormones are a bitch and you being even bitchier than I am because you are "nicin" all the time pisses me the hell off!! I know dipping is three times more adictive than smoking and 5 times harder to quit. You have told me. MANY times. I love that you are quitting and I know that it is so stresful at work that it is hard to quit while you are there but THIS is stressful too! Being all snappy and pissy and acting like a prick does not make this better for ANYONE!

I know you have a great job and without it we would be TOTALLY FUCKED. I know it was a one in a million chance that you would get a job that pays $80,000 without a college degree. I know you have to work your ass off to be the best that anyone has ever seen but could you please bring some of that home? NOT the working part ...you bring plenty of that home. The part where you try HARD to make everyone like you and do what you can to make things the best they can be. Bring some of that home! And speaking of the money you make a lot! Why do you act like we are so poor? I know you grew up poor but WE are not poor now! I know we have a bit of debt but it will get paid off soon and I am doing what I can. So please stop making it seem like we are going to be living in a box instead of a 2700 square ft house! We are fine! Stop worring all the time!!

I really do love you but if you could just be a little nicer, help out a little with my "Woman Work"and calm the fuck down I would be forever greatful.

Love, Your wife

EEEEeewwwww. SHIT!

I like you well enough. You have always been nice to me and our kids even if you were the devil when you were raising my husband during the summers and every other holiday. But the state of your house makes me want to vomit. Who is it that keeps shitting on the back of the toilet seat and WHY does no one wipe it off ?! And how does one even get shit on the TOP of the lid of the toilet?! Baby potties are meant to be used once and CLEANED out not to be left there until full and covered in slimy dusty stuff. If you didn't notice the dog shit in your son's room. And there is rat shit in the utensil drawer. It is BEYOND nasty when there is a chance of EATING the shit!!!! How is it there is shit in EVERY room of the house? I understand now why my husband feels the need to shower after every.single.time he shits. And his aversion to truck stops. Anyone living in that house is going to need a shit ton of therapy and a ton of clorox wipes.

Stargate SG-1 VS. Mormonism

I have some great friends who are Mormon and every time I find out something new about what they believe I think "REALLY?!? You seem like a smart person! How on earth could you believe THAT?! I am also a bit of a sci-fi geek and I watch Stargate SG-1 a lot. I have seen some things on Startgate that seem very similar to the Mormon beliefs. And actually the Ori ( the bad guys on the show) are a little MORE believable. Both the Ori and the Mormons offer Ascension to there followers. As in if you believe in this who-ha you will someday become a god.
They are both very organised and united in the fact that they teach the same thing at the same time to all who believe. The Ori have a big stick with a blue crystal on the end that glows and tells the prior (who is like a prophet of the Ori... kind of like this Morman group) what to teach the believers and the Mormons make sure every church is teaching the each same lessons and giving the same message to every believer every single week. I can see how those things might be tempting to believe. Here is where it gets a little fuzzy for me.

The Mormons also believe that the temple in Utah is a place where God himself actually comes down in a BODY and walks around. I want to know if they have a stargate in there!

They think you can convert your dead relatives to Mormonism.

The Mormons also believe that if they wear the special underwear that they are protected from all evil. Check out this video.

MMMmmmm HHHmmmmm.... Hallowed are the Mormon underpants.

Blah

I talked to my mother in law for an hour last night. The good news is that I didn't stab myself in the eye with an icepick before the call was over. That woman drives me NUTS! She complains more than any person on the planet. No one has ever been nice to her in her whole life. Yes her mother is a bitch and her father is dying. Yes her husband is an asshole and she is morbidly obese. Yes two of her three children want very little if anything to do with her because she loves to guilt people and whines ALL the damn time. I know all this and MOST of it is her own fault!! She refuses to spend ANY time with my children to get back at me for not letting her be alone with them after she started undermining my parenting decisions and screaming at me in front of my children. And she bottles things up and then yells at me for not spending EVERY MINUTE in the kitchen during holidays while chasing me ( 9 months pregnant) to my car and screaming to my 3 year old that she LOVES him!!( oh and that other kid you have) Even though your mommy is being a YOU KNOW WHAT!! Yeah. That was 3 days before I gave birth to my daughter. I didn't call her when she was born. Then we spoke to maybe 3 times that whole next year. They lived one street away from us at the time. My husband says he does not care if we NEVER speak to her again. My now 5 year old (the one she LOVES) was visiting his uncle and cousin about 10 hours from where we live. MIL was there too and REFUSED to give him a ride back home. 20 minutes from where she was going THE SAME DAY. She made BOTH her sons drive 10 hours they didn't have to just because she is still trying to get back at us for being "mean to her" or something. While I was on the phone with her last night she was going ON and ON about how she felt bad for going to visit her dying father because no one would be as good as her to watch "the baby". Her other grandchild who she watches 4 days a week. While she won't even give my kid a freaking ride home she complains to my how she is missing "the baby" and she loves "the baby" and she would HATE for "the baby" to have to go to a crappy germ infested daycare. My sister in law hates that she even has to take her to my MIL but they have no money and my BIL insists on it. That is enough for now. I could go on for days but I need to catch up on LOST.

Someone Else's Secret

I was talking to a friend at work about the girlfriend of a relative of a relative who was raped by her father and her uncle from the time she was 9 until she was 14. The worst part about it was that she is deaf and the family never taught her any way to communicate so she could never tell. When she was finally sent to a school for the deaf she learned ASL and how to text but she can't read or write and she won't tell on her dad and uncle because even thought she could legally they are the sole providers for all her siblings and her mom. My friend said she understood and she had the same problem with her brother. That he had three kids and a wife to take care of and that he was only a kid when it happened. I was like WHAT?!!? My friend was raped by her brother. And now the brother and his wife are bringing the kids to the program we work at once a week. I can't even look him. And my friend is still close to her brother. It weirds me out.

If I Needed Another Reason....

to hate my mother in law and my step father in law I just found it. We started having issues with them after my husband and I had been married a few years. It is a long story that I won't get into right now but I am sure I will get around to it sometime. My Husband had the chance to have a long talk with his older brother this past week and a lot of things came out from his childhood that he didn't really remember. He remembers that his step dad hit his little half-brother (who belongs to the step dad) ALOT when he was little but as the child get bigger the beatings lessen because the child can start to fight back or tell people. Husband remembers when the little brother was about 3 Evil Step Dad (lets call him ESD for short) would hold him by one arm and them "spank" him so hard that he would fly up in the air until his feet were level with his head. He didn't hold back his rage on this little child. He just let him have it. He says he ALWAYS had whelps and bruises on his body. He remembers being thumped in the head and being given the "Vulcan death grip". What he didn't remember were the times that ESD bashed his head into his older brother's head so hard he gave Older Brother (OB) a concussion. OB said that happened as least twice. The most disturbing thing that he heard however was the time that my Husband got in ESD's way when getting out of the car. They had been on a road trip and the boys had done really well in the car (Husband was about 6 at the time). Little husband opened his door as ESD was trying to walk by to get to the trunk. ESD waited for little husband to get out and shut the door then he stepped on the back the back of his shoe and kicked him in the back so his shoe came off and he went flying to the ground. Then ESD picked up little husbands shoe and threw it as far as he could down the hot south Texas black top. OB tried to go get it but ESD screamed at him and made little husband do it himself. Barefoot. In the summer. He got burns and blisters all over the bottom of his baby foot and ESD yelled at him for crying. His mother sat there and said NOTHING. OB tried to help little husband as much as he could for the next few weeks while his foot healed. ESD would yell at little husband for walking funny or being slow. This just makes me SICK. It is beyond abusive and it has effected Husband more than he realizes. OB asked him how many people he trusts. Husband said 3. Maybe 4. Only me. OB and his real dad. Maybe little brother. Ob said OK do you have a best friend? NO? That's because the people who we were supposed to be able to trust hurt us. When people tell you a sob story do you feel sorry for them? NO? That's because Mom complaned ALL the damn time but does nothing but sit back and watch while doing nothing. I knew that he had a rough childhood but I did't realize how rough. Besides the beating they were poor. Really poor. So ESD moved them to a tiny town in south Texas where they were the only white kids around and everyone beat them up and called them names. No wonder he has trust issues.